This is a specific conversation about Dog separation anxiety — practical help — ask about yours and get one honest answer for your exact situation.
inparticular.ai
Separation anxiety is genuinely one of the hardest things to deal with — for the dog, for you, and honestly for your poor pet sitter too. A Basenji going destructive while you're away for work is a real problem, not just a nuisance, and I want to be upfront: the right product can make a meaningful difference, but it works best alongside some consistency in routine. Before I point you in a direction, tell me a bit more — how destructive are we talking, how long has this been happening, and what if anything has your pet sitter or you already tried?
He chews furniture and scratches at doors, sometimes howls apparently. It's been happening for about a year since I started this job. We've tried a plug-in diffuser but I don't think the pet sitter was using it consistently.
inparticular.ai
That tracks — diffusers only work if they're running continuously in the right room, so inconsistent use basically means no use. A few quick questions about your Basenji specifically: does he settle better if he has a defined space like a crate or a particular room, or does confinement make him worse? And does the destructive behaviour tend to kick in immediately after you leave, or does it build over a few hours?
He has a crate but the pet sitter doesn't use it — she lets him roam. The destruction seems to happen in the first hour or two based on what she describes. He's fine by the evening apparently.
inparticular.ai
That's actually useful information — the fact that he settles by evening tells me this is almost certainly peak-distress at the point of your departure and transition, not a chronic all-day state. That's more manageable. The crate being unused is a real missed opportunity too; a Basenji who knows his crate is his safe space tends to cope much better during that first anxious window. Given all of this, my clear recommendation is the Adaptil Calm Home Diffuser Starter Kit. It's a synthetic analogue of the canine appeasing pheromone — the one mother dogs produce — and the evidence behind it for transition anxiety specifically is solid. The critical difference from what you tried before: you need one diffuser plugged in continuously in the room where he spends most of his time at the sitter's, left on the whole time you're away, not switched off between visits. I'd also strongly suggest asking the sitter to reintroduce the crate as his base — even just for feeding and settling — so it becomes a positive anchor point during your trips.
Does it matter which Adaptil product — there seem to be a few versions?
inparticular.ai
Good question. The Adaptil Calm Home Diffuser is the right one here — not the collar, not the spray. The collar is better for dogs who are anxious in multiple locations and on the move; the spray is useful for short-term events like car journeys. What you need is sustained, ambient pheromone coverage in a fixed space over several days, which is exactly what the diffuser is designed for. Get the starter kit, which includes the plug unit and one refill, and then stock your pet sitter with a spare refill so there's no excuse for it running out mid-trip.
That makes sense. Should I be doing anything else on the behavioural side?
inparticular.ai
Yes, a few things that cost nothing. First, work with your pet sitter to keep the handover low-key — long goodbyes and fussing actually ramp up anxiety rather than soothe it. A calm, matter-of-fact departure is better for him. Second, if you can, leave something with your scent — a worn t-shirt in his crate — during your trips; it's not magic but it genuinely provides some comfort for dogs with owner-specific attachment, which Basenjis often have strongly. Third, consider whether your sitter could use the crate for the first hour or two with a stuffed Kong to give him something to focus on during that peak distress window. Between the diffuser running properly, a calm routine, and the crate as a safe space, you should see a real improvement within a couple of trips.